Thoughts

I was talking to my school-mate and she wondered whether I feel lonely now, living away from family. That triggered the thoughts in my mind. I found that I am actually happy being alone.

Then I thought of the days when I was with my complete family of all possible in-laws, including grand-mother-in-law!

I know I was not at least unhappy, though I was not so happy - as lots of physical work with good amount of financial stress was always there. But I had my good time and really liked being with everyone. So, I was happy then.

Again, as a child, I was in a big family with all uncles, aunts, cousins, grand parents and meeting own parents only once in a while. I was happy then also.

That sets me thinking. Is it that I make myself happy in all circumstances? I find a lot of girls, young women complaining on being alone, on being with in-laws, on being with just husband, on being with husband and children. They complain on anything and everything.

Saw this young mother who insisted that I visit her house to see her kitchen interior. I went with great expectation - it was in total mess. She had just her one (!) husband and one kid to take care and she had to do no outdoor work at all. She is 100% at home and the house is in such disarray - she went on complaining on and on and on about being alone. When she is alone, if this is the state of her house, what it will be when she has 3 or 4 in-laws staying with her?

I think young women just get married thinking of all the fun that they can have and never realise the work that comes with marriage. Even small little things like keeping a neat nice house, cooking, cleaning, planning food and grocery etc... everything is fun and enjoyable if one has the right attitude.

Thank God, I am a happy person! I enjoy being with people, being alone, doing work and not doing work also. Any situation is alright for me. Nothing really poses a difficulty for me. I realise that I am a very flexible person.

So my friends and family think that I never had any problem in my life so far - may be it is true. I do not know what a problem is - as I am always moving towards solutions and happiness!